Hello to my ADHD peeps and ADHD loved ones living with ADHD today we are going to talk a little bit about forgetfulness in ADHD. Today we are just going to talk about the symptom itself and we will explore more of how we can deal with this symptom in a later post.
I am sure that everyone knows what forgetfulness is, but this symptom can be very distressing for someone with ADHD. Most people understand that a person with ADHD has a unique brain that seems to just keep moving and never stopping. This is one of the reasons why it is so easy to forget a task while living with ADHD. We know that there is something that we are supposed to be doing, but we just forget, and then we back track to try and understand where we lost the task and then it’s a vicious cycle of us trying to figure out just where the disconnect happened.
This symptom may not seem like a huge deal because yes people forget things but imagine the repercussions of a kid living with this. The teacher tells you to do something and you forget, and then you are the only kid that is not doing what you’re are supposed to. Imagine being given homework assignments and when you get home not remembering that you do have homework. It is really easy to see how a spiral can occur here and teachers start thinking that you are a problem child even though you are just struggling with trying to stay afloat.
This symptom can have just as big an effect on adults as it can on children. As an adult people may start to think that you are unreliable. ‘Don’t give that task to him he will just forget to do it.’ Or ‘You don’t want them in your group they wait till the last minute.’ People have this grand idea that a planner is going to help put a person with ADHD’s life back on track, but the simple truth is I spend more time organizing that planner and then end up losing it in the process of trying to use it which ends up creating more stress for myself. I to this day will listen to my wife tell me a task just to walk into another room forget it and have to come back and ask my wife for the exact same instructions.
So easy post here today, but just remember for future reference – if you are working with someone that has ADHD give them one task at a time and allow them to do that one task. Then once that task is complete have them come back for their next task. Breaking tasks and instructions like this helps prevent against forgetting by being overwhelmed with things to do and significantly increases our chances of success.